Take Full Responsibility
There comes a point in your life where you will have to take full responsibility for everything that has ever happen to you….
Just pause for a moment and let that statement above sink in for a second.
We live in a world where everyone is blaming someone else for their circumstance. I got a bad grade on that test because the teacher is an asshole. I didn’t open up that business because the bank wouldn’t let me money. I caught a cold because everyone where I work is sick. I can’t quit drinking because my father was an alcoholic. This is the world we live in where everyone is playing the victim and it is very hard for us to realize that we are doing so until we come to some sort of awareness about it. You may have even given this advice to someone that is always the victim in your eyes. Usually that advice goes in one ear and out the other and the person keeps going about their life blaming others. The reason that person is unable to see how he or she is being a victim is because deep down they have become addicted to the attention that playing the victim brings them.
Let’s take for example someone who is overweight we will call here Kate. Kate is obsessed with losing weight and is a serial dieter. She often make statements like “once I lose the weight I will find a boyfriend” or “once I’m skinny I will take that trip to Thailand.” All of Kate’s happiness has been placed on some point in the future when she is skinny. When Kate falls off one of here diets she will be defeated and looking for her high that being the victim provides for her. She will say things like “I’m never going to lose this weight” or “I guess I will just always be the fat girl” or “I’ve tried everything and nothing works.” Friends and family try and lift her up and say no you won’t, you can do this you are and amazing person. Kate feels better she has received her fix and moves on to the next diet of the month.
While Kate’s victim-hood is easy to spot it is usually much harder to spot in ourselves. This time I will use myself as an example. For my entire life I had placed my happiness on making a million dollars and I had a reason or someone to blame for why I had not achieved that goal. Here are some examples:
As you could see I could go on forever, I reviled in the world of being the victim and I couldn’t even see it. Then through personal development I came across the concept of taking full responsibility for everything that had ever happen to me. The person I was today and the circumstances in my life today are not because of any external factor. Everything has been and always will be on me. With this new discovery I was able to look back at my life and see how my decisions and actions had lead me to this very moment and no one are nothing else affected it. From the examples above I was able to look at all this blame in a new light.
There comes a point in your life where you will have to take full responsibility for everything that has ever happen to you….
Just pause for a moment and let that statement above sink in for a second.
We live in a world where everyone is blaming someone else for their circumstance. I got a bad grade on that test because the teacher is an asshole. I didn’t open up that business because the bank wouldn’t let me money. I caught a cold because everyone where I work is sick. I can’t quit drinking because my father was an alcoholic. This is the world we live in where everyone is playing the victim and it is very hard for us to realize that we are doing so until we come to some sort of awareness about it. You may have even given this advice to someone that is always the victim in your eyes. Usually that advice goes in one ear and out the other and the person keeps going about their life blaming others. The reason that person is unable to see how he or she is being a victim is because deep down they have become addicted to the attention that playing the victim brings them.
Let’s take for example someone who is overweight we will call here Kate. Kate is obsessed with losing weight and is a serial dieter. She often make statements like “once I lose the weight I will find a boyfriend” or “once I’m skinny I will take that trip to Thailand.” All of Kate’s happiness has been placed on some point in the future when she is skinny. When Kate falls off one of here diets she will be defeated and looking for her high that being the victim provides for her. She will say things like “I’m never going to lose this weight” or “I guess I will just always be the fat girl” or “I’ve tried everything and nothing works.” Friends and family try and lift her up and say no you won’t, you can do this you are and amazing person. Kate feels better she has received her fix and moves on to the next diet of the month.
While Kate’s victim-hood is easy to spot it is usually much harder to spot in ourselves. This time I will use myself as an example. For my entire life I had placed my happiness on making a million dollars and I had a reason or someone to blame for why I had not achieved that goal. Here are some examples:
- I was in the wrong industry
- My business partners were lazy
- There was too much tax in Canada
- The City I lived in wasn’t booming
- The economy sucked
- My parent should have left me with more money
- My parents should have taught me how to manage my money
- There wasn’t enough opportunity
- My mother died when I was 9
As you could see I could go on forever, I reviled in the world of being the victim and I couldn’t even see it. Then through personal development I came across the concept of taking full responsibility for everything that had ever happen to me. The person I was today and the circumstances in my life today are not because of any external factor. Everything has been and always will be on me. With this new discovery I was able to look back at my life and see how my decisions and actions had lead me to this very moment and no one are nothing else affected it. From the examples above I was able to look at all this blame in a new light.
- There have been plenty of people that have had enormous success in this industry
- I was lazy and I should have done the work myself instead of blaming and watching my business self-destruct
- Taxes are what provide me with an amazing life in Canada and I could actually look at taxes as giving to the less fortunate
- Many people with purpose and drive have made it in all kinds of places and in all kinds of economies
- Many fortunes are made in poor economies
- My parents gave me the greatest gift of all, the gift of life and I should have never expected anything more from them
- I should have taught myself how to manage my money
- Opportunities are a dime a dozen and now I have so much opportunity that if I’m not clear on my purpose I may find myself chasing too many of them
- While I was not responsible for my Mother’s death instead of focusing on all the bad, I now focused on all the good that came from her passing. My independence, my drive, my work ethic and most of all my passion to help people.